There have been plenty of guys who've shown interest in me, and TELL me how they're not like every other man and I should give them a shot. From the jump they show me they're not too different from the rest of them. I don't know what it is, but guys court women ALL wrong. Now it could be that they just want "THAT Thing" , which is normally easy to be detected. But if they so claim that they want to be My bestfriend or potential spouse, they go about it INCORRECTLY. I don't know if it is because A) they haven't dated a woman of my intelligence and standards B) they're "young" & considered immature because they're between the ages of 21-26 or C) they don't know any better & are Just ignorant when it comes to courtship. Or Maybe D) all of the above.
Im disgusted and disappointed in these guys' lack of Knowledge when it comes to women/LADIES who know their worth. If you want a Lady it's going to take some effort, to show that you even deserve her. For Example: Kicking it at the house for a first date is Whack, cheap, thoughtless & in my opinion INAPPROPRIATE. And if that's all a guy inquires is going over her house or inviting her over his, that courtship is OVER! If you are bringing up sex and asking explicit questions and you haven't taken her out, not only is that Inappropriate it is quite the turn off. And THAT courtship, is over!!For a man courting a woman from long distance there's plenty he could do to keep her interested if she's really into him. Consistent chivalrous acts will show he is serious about his interest in her. And if a man wants to see a woman, no matter how far, mileage will never be a issue.
Men: How would you feel if a man showing interest in your Lovely mother only wanted to chill in the house, never wanted to take her out and wine And Dine her?? Would you want your mother to be with a man that didn't put forth an effort, who didn't invest in her? I sure hope NOT! If men would Just take that into consideration Maybe they'll get a little further with women. 8 Ounces of Consistency and Considerstion 2 cups of Respect 1 cup of Chilvalry, 4 Tablespoons of Honesty, and 3 Teaspoons of Thoughtfulness are major ingredients to a Successfull Courtship! (in my opinion)
If for a moment you are un sure of how to go about dating a LADY just consider "If Your Mom was single how would you want a man to treat her?"
I understand where you are coming from but something that I have realize is that you can not rush a man to commit to something he is not sure of. So if you feel he is not putting his "best foot forward" than leave him be and wait patiently for someone else who is worth your time. But I can tell you now that it doesn't matter what age they are, if they are still having fun living the bachelor sceen which consist of clubbing, drinking, women, etc. than they are just not ready to commit(I had to learn that from personal exprience).
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Well you said it all. LOve it B! another great one!
ReplyDeleteMother is grown n has experience in the relationship department, so i would have confidence in her that she'd find a good man n no BS.... First impression is a must so if it takes me goin all out i will w/o the tough of sex on my mind, develop chemistry n a friendship..dont think of it as challenge to get the panties but to win her heart..
ReplyDeleteGreat Blog! I would mos def want a man to respect my mom. My parents have been married for 37 plus years so I've seen Black Love at its best first hand. First of all let me start off by saying that women don't realize the power that have as well as the influence on men. If women as a whole would respect themselves first then the man would know that the young childish games would not even work. I don't have a problem with a house date as long as some thought has been put into it. I believe communication is key and if people would communicate early on their situations and expectations then both parties would have a general understanding. You also have to take into account that particualr peerson's upbringing and family structure. All to often we as people tend to bring previous relationships and experiences into our current situations. Sometime it's for the good, but sometimes it can damage or harm the potential relationship. With all that being said its a serious issue when you are spending your life and time with someone, whether for day, week, month or even a year time is one thing you cant get back. So ask yourself "Do I Know me Before you I want you to get to know me?" Keep Posting and follow my blog.
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from a MAN's point of view, you're speaking the absolutely correct with your thoughts. One thing I have realized is that today's society is one that's "microwaved". Everybody wants everything is the quickest way possible w/o having to work for it. Our whole culture has been tought, in a reversed psych way, to believe it is okay to achieve success in the quickest way, and this philosophy has compromised out intellect, culture, and relationships between man and woman.
ReplyDeleteDon't give up ladies! There are PLENTY of men out here that still believe in courting. Just like good woman, we are often overlooked by what's in front of us. A long line of "microwaved" guys...
IMO, dating is too serious these days. Women determine a lot in the relationship. With that being said, know what you want and what you're getting into. Honestly, I will not take anyone out to eat on a first "date". Why? Dinner does not give time for intimacy. Both parties are trying too hard to impress rather than be themselves. Am I doing this or that right, etc. Also, a good person might be passed up due to a lack of petty etiquette or something even less important. A third bad point is the monetary factor. Some guys look at this as a "downpayment" and you perpetuated the situation. Women always look for a guy to "buy" them and then wonder why they are treated as such. When you buy something it's yours right?! I could go on...
ReplyDeleteBE: how is Dating too serious now days? & no one said u had to take someone out to eat on a first date, you can go out for drinks, bowling, a poetry night, Something Fun or adventurous. Shit if u that cheap & dont want to spend not a dime, set up a picnic. That's intimate just two people enjoying one anothers company & conversation. Not to mention it's thoughtful
ReplyDeleteSwoll: I'm not going Yo give up. Zo: I agree with you 100% & send me the link to your blog. Anon: regardless if you have confidence in your mother finding the right man or not, you wouldn't want her to deal with a loser, who doesn't put any effort in courting her. What u said was irrelevant. I'm grown and have dating experience & have confidence in finding the right man. That's y I'm single now! Mayah: I agree w/ u too & have learned from experience. And Sani: thanks boo ;)
ReplyDeleteB, you're making my point. I think time should be spent on getting to know a person rather than wasting time trying to impress someone. If you can't be yourself, it won't work anyway and you're just prolonging the inevitable. Keep the score low. Learn to appreciate what's special about one another.
ReplyDeleteDating is dating. Meaning you go on a date. People try to lay claim to someone too quickly. I can go on a date with you and then on a date with someone else tomorrow. If we go out a couple of times, chat, kick it..does not make us "dating" in the new generation tense.