Being Single I've come to the realization that it's Hard to come across a
man that meets
all of our
standards. Conversing with other single women I've noticed that I am not the only lady that feels like theres Always something "wrong" with a guy thats interested in me. For instance, the
real Fine men whom are
physically and sexually attractive, with a great sense of humor either A)
don't have a career or make little to
NO money. Or B) they DO have money but show
no interest in spending it on you i.e dates etc.. Let's be real, women Are going to require that a man has money.
Money equates to Financial stability. These
fine men who don't have a dime or not willing to share it are use to getting and keeping women solely off of their dashing good looks and sex. In their mind they
do NOT have to
break bread because so many females have and will continue to be content with the minimum these particular guys are willing to offer. In fact some of these women are cashing out these fine men to keep them around.
"Nooooo Sir, NOT mee!!"
And there's
the guy who is highly educated, has a great career, nice car & residence. This man has
no problem taking you out on dates &
spending his money on you. He knows how to treat a lady and gets pleasure from it. Sounds like a
great catch right? Well the only thing is he A) is corny/lame and you guys have
No spark/chemistry B) your not physically/sexually attracted to him or C) Both . In either situation a woman would be settling.
Sex appeal or Money? Which is more important? It's hard to choose because women want a man who wines & dines her that has a great career. This type of guy will make a
great husband. But then again a lady wants someone she is comfortable with and wouldn't mind waking up to every morning.
Do we settle or keep on looking for a man that meets bothrequirements?
Being Single I've come to the realization that it's Hard to come across a man that meets all of our standards. Conversing with other single women I've noticed that I am not the only lady that feels like theres Always something "wrong" with a guy thats interested in me. For instance, the real Fine men whom are physically and sexually attractive, with a great sense of humor either A) 
And there's the guy who is highly educated, has a great career, nice car & residence. This man has no problem taking you out on dates & spending his money on you. He knows how to treat a lady and gets pleasure from it. Sounds like a great catch right? Well the only thing is he A) is corny/lame and you guys have 
Who the heck knows!? I think financial stability is important because it's the man's responsibility to provide for his family but I think being attracted to your mate is important as well. And when I say financially stable I'm not meaning he gotta be a millionaire. Your dude could be a welder...it's a dirty, hot and sweaty job...but welders are PAID! You can buff that dust off! What is pleasing to one might not be to the other so in terms of looks sometimes the guy may not look the best but may have the gift of gab. My issue lies with a dude not only being unattractive (lookwise..I mean hell he can't help he ain't cute) but then has ZERO conversation for my ass! I seriously hold issue with a man who cannot hold a conversation about anything...hasn't read a book, hasn't been anywhere (OR A DESIRE TO GO ANYWHERE),etc. I don't think I'm being difficult or extremely picky for not wanting a PROJECT (or rather I should say a MAJOR project)! Somebody I got to clean up, read to, and take places. I'm looking for the dude who is secure doing what he's doing and can take ME places; someone who is SELF MOTIVATED! Brothas in particular been in a rut so long idk what to say about them...black mamas have put A LOT of stock into their girls and their upbringing...but not so much the boys and here we are with this issue...whack ass pretty boys and mealy mouth uglies (albeit nice). Perhaps we need to stop thinking with our human minds and ask GOD to take precedence in our hearts and minds and let him decide. Often our mind's eye is tricky...we'll screw ourselves out of a blessing worrying about the wrong stuff! In the meantime all I can do is work on me and be the best me I can to myself and those around me. I pray that God allows me to be ready when my mate (even if he ain't the cutest)arrives. At that point I can ask the Lord to make this GOOD MAN/PROVIDER desirable TO ME! Eff all the dumb ish...I'm trying to live cozy! <<--cuz I ain't trying to lay up with no pretty man I got to take care of! That's what won't happen! We can all pray for the perfect man...that's the holy grail but he doesn't exist. What are we willing to compromise!?
ReplyDeleteMen face this dilemma too. Sometimes you might just happen to befriend a girl who possesses every thing you want in a woman mentally & spiritually, but she may not be physically what you desire. Or you may catch the beautiful woman who has all of the physical attributes, but she can't stimulate your thoughts past sexual ones. I was once the the guy who said he wouldn't date anything lower than an 8.5, but as I have grown older I find myself looking for more than a pretty face.
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